My Family Comes First

My word. Has it been one whole month since I last blogged? Where in the world has time gone?!?!? I think it’s about time to get you guys filled in a little bit….

First, I want to speak something out loud that has been brewing in my mind for a while. Instagram is slowly replacing my blog. GAH…did I just say that? I DID!! While I hate to admit it, I guess it’s kinda true. Here’s the thing: life has gotten so busy lately…our little business is BOOMING. God is so good. I feel beyond blessed to see Him do His thing and finish what He started in our lives.

BUT…..All this busyness doesn’t make much time for blogging. 

So I post pictures via Instagram {ok, sometimes a lot of pictures, hehe} and give everyone a snippet of our lives without having to go too much into to detail…well, it helps, you know? But I miss this blog. So much of my life is chronicled here. I know many of you have been reading from the beginning and will remember many of my struggles as a new mom to two, watched me discover a business, listened to my ups and downs, watched God move us, and now see us grow into a new season of growth. It’s pretty cool, if you ask me. I love the history here.

Guys, I’m going to be honest. God has been dealing with me. Big time. About my family. About my choices. About my future. About my TIME. Do you ever think about time? I’m not sure I really did much, many moons ago. But now, it seems there is so little of it. Do you know what I mean?

Our 2013-2014 school photos. Evelyn grade Pre-K, Jacob grade 1.

So very little time.

Several weeks ago I read this devotional from Proverbs 31 woman. It convicted me to the core. This line in the devotional literally jumped off the page and slapped me in the face: “However, she reserved her greatest energy and most creative ideas for her first line of ministry—her own family and home.”


Guys, I want to be the Proverbs 31 woman. I really do. I want to have a neat and clean house, run a business, make extra money, minister to everyone who needs it. But I want my family and home to be first. First before ANYTHING and EVERYTHING that might come my way. First before ministry, or work, or even friends. I want my kids to know that after God, they are first in my life. God, family, church/work. That’s how my life balance should go.

But you know what? That doesn’t always happen, does it?

How many times have I pushed my kids away and said, “I need to finish this email, give me a few minutes” or “I’m sorry you’re tired and need me, honey, but we have to help someone really quickly.” Yikes. I’ve said both of those things and more way too many times to count. If you are a working mom, or in ministry of some form, I’m sure you have said those things too.

Ok, let’s be real here, it’s going to happen. It’s life. We can’t help it. But as I read that devotional it was like God was shinning a light right on my heart. And my heart shriveled up in embarrassment because it knew it wasn’t putting my family first. As I read those words, tears poured down my cheeks {like they are now}. I went and found Brandon and cried. I told him how sorry I was. And I told him my family will come first. Before work. Before church. But not before God. I will do what HE wants me to do, not what everyone else needs from me. I will make decisions for my children not based on my work needs, or what others around me think I should do, but on what God impresses me to do. I will take any obstacle that comes my way and knock it over, if that’s what God wants me to do. I will say “no” more, and say “yes” to my kids. I will put their needs first, even if it means telling others I can’t.

I will be a Proverbs 31 woman. Because she put her family first. Didn’t care what people thought. And work never ruled her.

I guess that’s why you haven’t seen much of me lately. I have only so much time in my day….I’ve spent every spare moment while the kids are at school working….so I can be with them when they come home. Brandon and I have made some drastic changes in our life….making some decisions that we feel are necessary to put our kids first. We are taking our arms and wrapping them as tight around our kids as we can. Because life is so short. And they are growing so fast. We will have lots of time when they are gone to live out our dreams and desires, but for now…we are putting those things second to making sure our kids live a healthy life and see Christianity through US pouring out on THEM…not US pouring out on EVERYTHING ELSE in our lives.

So I’ve taken account of my life and cut things out that I know do not meet with our ultimate goal of family first. I’m not sure how much you will really see of me…I will share our journeys as a family and as Evy’s Tree grows as much as I can here on this blog, but if you want a day to day glance at our life, follow me on Instagram. ;)

 I leave you with this verse: “…let each of us give account of ourselves to God…”  Romans 14:12

So I’m going to preach here for a second, so kindly cover your eyes if this isn’t your thing: but I encourage you to take some time and examine your life today. Don’t be afraid to say no every now and then. I know it will challenge you. Make sure what you are doing lines up with HIS will for your life. Not anybody else’s will, but HIS WILL. Put Him first in your life. Above everything. And watch what He does for you. Watch what He does for your family. Watch what He does for you life. I bet it will be amazing.

I love you all. You are so awesome. Carry on friends, carry on. In Jesus’ name.


8 thoughts on “My Family Comes First

  1. 1

    LOVED LOVED LOVED this!!!! I’m right there with you!!! This time is so floating and so precious with these babies that have been entrusted to us!! I admire you and agree with you completely!! ❤

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    Stefanie Montijo says:

    Very, very true.. I’ve missed your godly words on this blog, But I keep up with you everywhere else on social media. God bless you and your family!!!

  3. 3
    Susan Sullivan says:

    Amy – you have to do what YOU think God wants for you and your family! This is what you are doing …. I give you a standing “O” for that!!!!

    I will whisper as I slide out the door ….. I do miss your blogging. I’m not on instagram – but I do follow you on FB. Remember your reason for starting the blog in the first place…. it was so your children’s lives could be chronicled – so for that reason, don’t walk away completely – and make notes of the important things in their lives so the info doesn’t get lost in the shuffle …. but absolutely, you are making good choices! :)

    Love you so much!!!!

  4. 4
    Summer Stevenson Schexnayder says:

    Thank you for always sharing your heart Amy…I loved this! And I needed to be reminded of it. We need to have you come speak to our ladies sometime…you would be awesome! Love you :-)

  5. 5

    Thank you for writing your truths, they are inspiring…

    With all that has happened this past year with my little Enzo, I feel so blessed and “Thank God” to all that has supported us. It has taught me a lot, but mostly how important my family is FIRST!

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    Cindy McPhaill says:

    Wow! This is just what I needed to hear today. I feel such confirmation that God is working His will in my life. I feel changes coming and I want to listen to Him. May I have the strength to make the changes He wants me to make…

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    Lisa Baray says:

    Thank you for being so honest and transparent in your thoughts and feelings. I totally understand every word you wrote and still struggle with this issue. I am a mother of five, now a grandmother to two little ones and a Labor and Delivery nurse. It seems like I am always pulled in 15 different directions – there is SO much I want and need to do. I can’t find enough time for my friends, relatives, or church activities because I pour absolutely everything I am into my family and my job. I’ve struggled with conviction over everything for years now – mostly my job and church, but bottom line is my kids come first. My family is my first ministry and my job is my second ministry. I could add so much more, but I think you understand. You are not alone and it will all work out. Take a deep breath and know that God knows our hearts and will direct our paths. Congratulations on your booming business.

    You can get a peak into my world by my pictures on IG @ lisabaray.

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