ADHD-isms

If you have been following our blog for long, you most likely know that Jake was diagnosed with ADHD at the beginning of this school year. If you know us personally, you probably also know that this came as no surprise to us. Brandon has ADHD, and well, quite frankly, if you have known Jake most of his life, I’m sure you would know that he had it too.

So we are definitely used to the very random, outlandish ADHD-isms that go on around our home.

For instance, there is a lot of movement over here. A LOT. There is always someone beatboxing, tapping, running, talking, jumping, singing…you name it, our house is never quite. Or still, for that matter. ha.

It is my hope that by me talking plainly about our journey with ADHD, that we can encourage some of you out there who are dealing with it too. Because the fact of the matter is…ADHDers are amazing. So so amazing. They are usually the most friendly, funny, enjoyable kids {and adults ha} out there. They are the life of the party.

So I thought it would be fun to, from time to time, give you all some funny little sayings that I hear around our house. I call them ADHD-isms. Those random comments that come up throughout the day that are HYSTERICAL…but you try so hard to not laugh because they are said in a serious context. You know the ones I mean?

Well, here’s a couple from today spoken from my little man….

Jake – “So mom…I didn’t get all my stars today”

{Jake has a modified plan that allows his daily behavioral schedule to be broken up into 4 blocks instead of one, so his goal is to get 4 stars daily}

Me- “That’s too bad, how come?”

Jake- “Well, I was being disruptive. See I just have all these things pop into my mind that I want to tell everyone and I just can’t remember them so I can’t save them to tell them at recess time, so I just shout out and tell them then. I know I should do it, but MOOOOMMMM….it’s SO HARD to not tell them!!” 

{This is all said with tons and tons of animation and hand motions, and oh my word, I about died laughing, and he giggled like crazy while telling me this. Classic ADHD}

Brandon- “So Jake, what do you have that makes you do this?”

Jake- “BHD, Dad…it’s called BHD.”

Brandon- “Oh so that’s kinda like a PhD, right?”

Jake- “Yeah, yeah, right! Same thing!” 

Yup, they are exactly the same thing for sure! ;)

xoxo

A Few Of My Favorite Things and A Discount Code

Happy holiday weekend friends! I hope your weekend has been filled with lots of love, fun and excitement….or maybe it’s just filled with rest, and sometimes that even better than anything else, right? :)

I’m not going to lie {and yes Mr/Ms Anonymous, so sorry, I’m going to complain for a second, so you might want to skip over this part ;)}, the last couple weeks have been rather tough for me. I have NEVER had a problem sleeping but my sleep has been hiding from me lately. Over the last two weeks, I think I slept about 4 hours every night…somewhere right around 2:30 or 3 AM I would wake up and not be able to get back to sleep. I know it’s probably stress…I had a spring photo shoot to worry about {although it turned about amazing, see HERE}, Spring items to get finished and launched {which is huge in and of itself} and then the kicker was we had some issues with Jake at school and we had to take a better look at his IAP {Individualized Accommodation Plan}. I have to be honest, although putting together a spring photo shoot and a spring line is huge, anything that has to do with our kids is huger, right? And then we had some other little family bumps in the road and WAH-LAH! No sleep! Ha!

All that to say, this four day weekend came at a time that I needed it most. Friday morning the kids had no school thanks to a teacher in service day, so Brandon let me sleep in while he took care of the kiddos. It was the first time I have slept that long in a really, really long time. And then yesterday we took the kids to the city {San Francisco, for you non locals}. The day was gorgeous, the weather warm, the sites rejuvinating. Just what we all needed. Yesterday after a wonderful church service, we came home and rested some more, and then had a family movie night complete with popcorn and a fire in the fireplace. It’s been HEAVENLY. Needless to say, I’m thinking come Tuesday morning I’ll be ready to conquer the world, how about you? :)

THANK YOU LORD. You knew exactly what I needed this weekend. You are our very present help in time of trouble and you are always right on time. 

We are headed out for another day of fun this morning, but really quickly I wanted tell you about a few of my favorite items from the Spring line. I didn’t get a chance to do a blog post regarding my faves yet, so I figured today was as good as time as any since…

the 15% off discount code is STILL active! Enter EMAILLOVE at checkout. It’s good through today and into the night. ;)

So some of my favorites:

The Carisa Brilla

I’m not going to lie, if I was to purchase a Brilla this season, this one would be it. I am in SUCH a huge grey and orange phase right now. And to be honest, it looked SO ADORABLE on Carisa {who it’s named after}. She came over a little later with flipflops on and had the hoodie unzipped, it still looked cute. Want one? Click HERE to buy.

The Lauren Brilla

This one is a no brainer. Who doesn’t wear navy and red during the spring and summer?? It’s the perfect outdoor activity hoodie. And Lauren, our little model, is precious isn’t she?
Oh and bonus! Dog hoodie available in this one as well. What could be cuter?
Adult hoodie HERE, Kids hoodie HERE, Dog hoodie HERE
The Black Diana Wrap
This one is an essential, in my opinion. And thankfully, I have quite a bit of the fabric {knock on wood} so we should have this around for a little bit, at least. Don’t have a Diana Wrap….um, I’m not kidding, do yourself a favor and buy one. They are by far one of my favorite items right now. Can be casual or dressy {I wore my navy one to church yesterday with a navy skirt, scarf and heels}…they are so versatile.
All Diana Wraps HERE, Black Diana Wrap HERE
The Grace Wrap
The Grace wrap is so so popular over here. One of the things that makes this one so loved is the juxtapose between causal and dressy. Its made out of repurposed men’s hoodie, but the high end ribbon and ruffles make it look like a runway item. It’s so very fun to wear.
Purchase the Grace Wrap HERE, The Mrs Darcy Brooch HERE
The Simple Hoodie
I think one of our most popular items is The Simple hoodie. I have people tell me all the time how its the hoodie they love the most because it’s plain, but yet not plain, if that makes any sense. :) And this hoodie is one of the first 4 styles to be included in our manufactured items. Although this is coming in our manufactured goods, it will not come in Navy this year {although we hope to produce it in a rainbow of colors in the years to come}…So I have to say one of my favorite items this spring is the navy simple. And I LOVE how sweet Cheyenne styles it…can you tell she is pregnant? Another reason to love Evy’s Tree the are perfect for you pregnant people. :)
Navy Simple HERE
Mrs Darcy Exclusively for Evy’s Tree
I am so very excited about this one. Mrs Darcy has LONG been an essential part of Evy’s Tree. If you have one of our simples or grace wraps from way back in the beginning, then you probably have one of Mrs Darcy’s brooches. I have to tell you a little bit about Mrs Darcy….shown here with her two darling boys.
Mrs Darcy is a lovely woman who adores all things ruffly and girly, but yet is stuck in a boys world {I’m sure there are other moms out there that can relate :) }. She started making brooches and headbands as a side hobby many years ago and her items are like little pieces of art, she hand makes each one and puts lots of love and care into them. She has an etsy store that she started a couple years ago, but this past year and a half has been difficult for her. Her beloved sister in law was diagnosed with cancer and if you know Mrs Darcy, you know that she loves with all her heart. This was probably one of the most difficult things for her to go through.
Shown above with her sister in law Kelly, taken last week. Kelly recently had surgery again in hopes of finally knocking out this cancer that is in her body. Through it all, Mrs Darcy has had to slow down on her creative side to help her family through this time. But she is back now and is hoping to gradually ease into the swing of creating once again.
To help her out, I offered to give her a spot in our store, as long as she made exclusive items for Evy’s Tree. And of course, she did! Have you seen what’s there? Some favorite pieces and some new pieces, I think you will love them!
All of them go wonderfully with our simples, grace wraps or the Army green Jackie Brilla.
To shop Mrs Darcy’s exclusive collection go HERE.
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Whelp, that’s it! Remember, use code EMAILLOVE to get 15% off the entire store until tonight! Yes, that’s even sale items! have fun shopping!
As for us, we are considering going to Ikea today. It’s been at least 12 years since I’ve been and Brandon has never gone. Do you think we should go?? We just want to know what all the hype is about, fill us in, what are we missing. :)
Happy President’s Day everyone! xoxo
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Celebrating Jacob’s 6th Birthday…Western Style

I know, I know, today is supposed to be Food Friday. Whelp, I have a recipe all photoed, and waiting to be edited, but to be honest, thanks to my late night of loading the sale items in the shop, I’m just too tired to do it. So I guess we’ll have to plan on next week. Come back, I think you’ll love the recipe! But I DO have all of the pictures editted from Jake’s 6th birthday party…so would you like to see those today? You would? Well, great! :)

*Warning: Heavy photo post!

When Jacob told me that he wanted to have a Western style birthday, I freaked out a little. I shy away from ANYTHING western…it’s just not me and I feel so out of my element with cowboy boots and country music, ha.  But Jake was insistent upon it, so a Western theme it was, and I actually had a great time planning this party! Brandon and I first hopped on pinterest to see what other people have done for a “Western” theme. We found a LOT of cowboy stuff, which was cute, but Jake was clear he wanted not a COWBOY party but a WESTERN one {I guess he thought it opened up the costume department a bit more for his friends? who knows….ha}. Anyway, we got really inspired when Brooke sent over Jake’s invites. Isn’t Brooke amazing?

Something about this invite got me super excited and I saw immediately what I needed to do. Call me crazy, but I knew I needed Pompoms. Yes, for a boy party. Throw your darts if you must, but he loved them {and I ADORED them}. :)

I really, really MUST learn to be a little better organized. The party started at 5 and at 4:30 I was still running around like a chicken with my head cut off finishing things up. For the record, I spent a LOT of money on Jake’s ice skating party last year, and we just didn’t have that kind of money this year, so I figured for a 1/3 of the cost, I could do the party at home…if I cooked all the food, made the cakes, etc. WELL…I did. I did it ALL. I mean EVERYTHING. Yup. Call me crazy. And that’s why I was running around like a lunatic at 4:30. ha.

ANYWAY, when a couple of the moms got there, I threw the camera at my friend Jenny and told her to start take pictures. She, and later Sara, did an amazing job of capturing the party. Seriously AMAZING. The only thing is I never told them I wanted a full shot of the room with the hanging the pompoms and didn’t realize that until I had nearly cleaned up the room Saturday morning. So here’s a somewhat idea of what the full room looked like. ha.

The pompoms were so much fun, I just loved doing them. I followed THIS tutorial if anyone wants to make them. They were super easy. I used pipe cleaners instead of the flower wire stuff they suggested and I got a huge pack of them from the dollar store. I figured the each pompom cost me $1. Not bad! :)

One more picture of the pompoms, this one from the night of the party. I love this picture. You can see the pompoms, you can feel the happy spirit in the place, and my boy is too cute in his costume. I think I may frame this picture. I am SO GLAD that his special night turned out exactly how he wanted it. And it felt so good as a mom to host all his friends and have everyone have a good time. Special memories for sure!

Ok, pictures…I’ll tell you details of the party at the end. :) Here’s the Desert table..

Hot Chocolate Station…the kids LOVED this!!!

S’mores Station…so much fun! I think the adults liked this more than the kids. :)

We served dinner for everyone….

Waiting outside to greet his guests… He kept running around shooting everyone. Ugh. What a warm welcome, yes?

Friends….

Ev. :)

When we moved into our house we had this dug out hole that we could not figure out what it was for. We even asked the neighbors, but no one knew. We finally decided it was a fire pit {still not sure if it was, ha}, so we used it for the first time to roast s’mores on. We LOVE it!! Will definitely use it again. Such a great way to spend a chilly evening with friends. 

Jake, Gramps and Jake’s new Hike America Stick from our good friend Roy. Never heard of Hike America? Well, you’ve probably seen them, if you’ve been to any national park. Hike America sources the walking sticks for most National Parks and hiking areas. Roy is the brain behind it and one of my dad’s dearest friends. Jake was so excited to get his own “kid size” version of it. Thank you Roy!!

Making him refuel. He was obviously thrilled about it, can’t you tell? ha. 

Probably his favorite card of the night. It sings the Chipmunk song. We can’t figure out who it’s from as it’s not signed?? ha. But he loved it whoever gave it to him. Thank you! :) 

Mumsy and Gramps gave him a basketball hoop. He was thrilled.

Yes, I made the cake. Scroll down for more info. :)

Favors. Super easy, cost about a $1 each. Brooke made the bifold toppers for me, I bought a pack of 30 small bags from Target, went to the dollar store and found the water guns, harmonicas and sheriffs badges were from Party City and the gold chocolate coins were from the dollar section at Target. Win win for everyone!

Whelp…that’s it! It was a successful party for sure! We had friends stay until nearly 11 that night and we loved being with everyone. Thank you to all who came and made the night so special for Jake. We were honored you joined us. We love you!

And no, I didn’t clean the kitchen up that night, for all you who were wondering if I followed my own rule after a big party. I actually allowed myself to go to bed and wake up to this:

It was worth it. :) Big hugs everyone. xoxo

Chocolate Cake: Barefoot Contessa HERE {and yes, I used the coffee buttercream, it’s amazing.}

Chocolate and Peanut Butter Cupcakes: Barefoot Contessa HERE

Coconut Cupcakes: Barefoot Contessa HERE

Chili: Jamie Dean HERE {It was unbelievably good, and I don’t even like chili!}

Cornbread: Trader Joes

Salad: HERE {which I never served, ha, oops!}

Hot Dogs: Costco, cooked by Brandon :)

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Zero Stickers

So let me ramble here for a second…. a couple nights ago, I spent several hours looking through old pictures. It’s quite scary, actually, to see yourself many moons ago….so weird how you change over time. Actually very weird. I’ve always been one to worry about my weight. Always. But looking back at those pictures, I wanted to reach my hands through the old copies and wring my skinny little neck. What in the world was I thinking? Even after having Evy, I was still pretty little.

Me and Evy with our dear friend {and Evy’s Tree model} Kate. 

And here’s me after I had Jake. Can we say TINY? Brandon and I goofing off at a restaurant mirror.

So I keep thinking about how over the last couple years I have complained about my figure so very much. And boy, do I feel ashamed now. Especailly since I am now at least 10 lbs over what I have ever been. I think the moral of the story is this: it’s so easy to look down on yourself, but learn to love yourself at every stage in your life. Because you never know…things could be WAY worse.

Dear 25 year old Amy, at 36, I can show you NEED TO DIET. Stop complaining.

So with that thought off my mind, let’s talk about Jake for a second. Part of his ADHD 504 plan classroom modifications is to break the day up into small parts and work towards success in each individual area. Since ADHDers have a hard time working on long term goals, his modification plan is full of short term goals to encourage excitement with his learning. His day is split up in three blocks and he is assessed accordingly. His behavior is monitored three times a day, and he gets a sticker on his take home paper for each block that he accomplishes his main behavior goals: sit quietly, doesn’t distract others, and raises his hand to speak {just saying these three goals makes me giggle as if you know him, these are HARD things for him to do! ha}.

Since implementing the plan, he has always gotten at least one sticker. But yesterday his take home paper came home looking like this:

Zero stickers. Awesome right? ugh. Before we got Jake diagnosed, a good friend of mine who also has an ADHD boy told me, “Living with ADHD is REALLY, REALLY hard. I don’t care what anyone tells you, it very difficult.” I remember thinking that it couldn’t be THAT bad.

But it is. It really, really is.

It’s very hard to have to make special modifications for your child that you love so much. It’s so very hard to see that is he is JUST NOT capable of behaving like everyone else, no matter how hard I try to help him. My friend was right, living with ADHD is extremely hard.

Yesterday when he came home with zero stickers, Jake and I had a chat about his day. Thankfully, he is still really young and doesn’t understand that his behavior is extremely annoying. {ha}. And thankfully, our school is so wonderful that being sent to the office isn’t always a bad thing, just a support. Our principals are awesome and always positively redirect Jake, so that’s helpful. But as a mom, hearing your kindergarten student was sent to the office prompts visions in my mind of my future high school student practically living there, if he continues at this rate. Honestly? It’s enough to make me want to lay down and have a good cry. Yup. it does. Go ahead and judge, but it’s the truth.

The last couple days I have felt the Lord nudge me to read about Elijah. And this portion of scripture jumped out at me:

 ’Elijah was afraid and ran for his life. When he came to Beersheba in Judah, he left his servant there, while he himself went a day’s journey into the wilderness. He came to a broom bush, sat down under it and prayed that he might die. “I have had enough, Lord,” he said. “Take my life; I am no better than my ancestors.” Then he lay down under the bush and fell asleep.’ I Kings 19:3-5

Dear Elijah: I love you. If you read the entire context of this scripture, you will read about how before this laying down and dying incident, Elijah has the miraculous show down with the 400 prophets of Baal…where God hears Elijah’s prayers and sends fire down to devour Elijah’s offering, all while the 400 prophets of Baal’s offering sits untouched. You see how God delivers the people out of drought through Elijah’s prophecies. You see miracles, signs and wonders coming from Elijah…but at this point, Jezebel threatens him, saying she will kill him. He is alone. He is the last prophet left. And he is frustrated. And he runs.

Thank you Elijah. Because now I know, it’s not just me that feels like doing that from time to time. Dear readers, I’m not stupid…I know what it may look like over here. Social media puts such a deceiving twist on people’s lives. Things look WAY better than they really are. But the reality is I often feel like Elijah {probably more often than not}. Like last night when I got Jake’s take home paper back. Or when I step on the scale in the morning. Or when I get a business situation that I have no idea how to deal with. I feel like Elijah. The thoughts that go through my mind sound like this:

Parenting is too hard

Marriage is so tough

Manufacturing is way too difficult, I should quit

Living for God is not easy

I want to quit.

If you have some time, read through Elijah’s story in 1 Kings, it will really encourage you. My favorite part is when he spends 40 days walking up the mountain to where God is. And when he gets there, the Lord says to him, “What are you doing here, Elijah?”. HA. I love it.

After Elijah complains to Him how faithful he’s been but now he’s about to be killed, God sends him back. But not without showing Elijah His power through the wind, the earthquake and the fire. And not without telling him that He had seven thousand people who had not turned to Baal. He was not really alone.

Here’s the reality of the situation: when you are on the Lord’s team… NOTHING MATTERS.  It doesn’t matter how down you feel about yourself. How much you question your purpose, or how often you feel like quitting. Because even when I go to Him feeling like laying down and throwing in the towel…He is still there asking me, “Why are you here?”. I love that. Because He sees the end of the story and knows it will be exactly how it’s supposed to be and how HE planned it….success, regardless of how we feel about it. And everything really will be alright. Just ask Elijah.

Nothing is too hard for God. Ever. {Even zero stickers.} And for that I am so very thankful.

Big hugs friends. xoxo

Happy 6th Birthday, Jacob!

Today this cutie turns 6. And I can’t stop crying.

How can my itty bitty baby boy be SIX?!? Before I know it, he will be 18 and not wanting me to hung and kiss and snuggle him. Pretty soon, he’ll have a wife of his own to snuggle with, and a couple kids…

Thinking like this makes me want to cherish EVERY SINGLE MOMENT with my boy. Every little second when he drives me nuts, I need to remember that I’m going to blink and he’ll be gone.

Today I keep thinking about that little baby that was handed to me on January 18, 2007, at 2:15 PM. He had a little old man hair-do and a wrinkled up face, but he stole my heart…instantly. There was no doubt that God had something great in store for him. Thinking back over the years, I see how God used Jake to change me…make me a better person, and see HIM in everything in life. Yes, I believe with all my heart that God used Jacob to help me understand our Heavenly Father’s love for us. It’s powerful how He does that.

So today, sweet baby boy, as I make your birthday dinner and cake, I will be praying for you. I’m praying that you give your whole heart to Jesus, that you let Him guide you in this terribly confusing world and that you know with all your heart…without a shadow of a doubt, that your mommy and daddy love you with everything inside them.

Happy Birthday Jacob Brandon Wollmer Miraflor. You Rock.

xoxo

31 Days: Fire Station

In case you are wondering what’s going on here, I am joining up with The Nester and her 31 Day Challenge. I am challenging myself to write about Thankfulness for 31 days…every day be thankful for something, even if it’s little. A way to force me to look at the positive so to speak…if you want to see all the 31 day posts I do, click HERE.

Well everyone, I figured this would happen eventually during this whole 31 days of thankfulness thing, but today…um, well, it’s just a really bad day. There you have it. Lots of tears at the moment. I could use some choice words about today but since I’m supposed to be avoiding complaining during this time, I’ll refrain, but overall I have to say this: being a Mom is really, really, really hard. REALLY HARD. Especially if your son is as rambunctious, driven, excitable and emotional as Jake is. Let’s just say that currently, as I type this, the bag of Nestle morsels is being inhaled. Right now. As we speak. In fact, it’s almost gone. ugh.

Today was the class field trip to the fire station and picnic at the park. Jake has been so very excited about this trip. We laid out his clothes last night because we got to bed a bit late and I knew that he would need to sleep in a little this morning. But at 6 AM, I heard somebody stumble into my room DRESSED and READY to go to school for the field trip. :( So awesome. He was that excited.

Pretty much the moment the field trip started we were in trouble. While the class was getting ready to leave their classroom to load up into cars, Jake decided he needed to go #2, so he sat on the pot while the rest of the kids waited on the curb. I’m sure that was stressful for him. :( We then loaded up in the cars and when we arrived, Jake asked to walk with another group of boys and they told him he wasn’t in their group. That probably hurt too {or maybe it was just me that hurt, ha}. Once at the fire station, the engine was gone out on an emergency so we had to wait a bit, so a game of duck, duck goose was played. Jake never got picked.

He was crushed. It was too much for him. He lost it.

I eventually got him calmed down enough to join the rest of the class welcoming the fire engine and he cheered up for a bit while they viewed the engine and asked questions, and thankfully was able to enjoy the trip for a little bit.

He also hung out with his friend Preston for a bit, which was nice.

He also got to shoot water from the hose, which he loved

But overall, I spent a whole lot of time away from the rest of the group trying to calm him down. Really, the fact that he hasn’t got a lot of rest I’m sure played into it. But regardless, it’s still pretty hard.

Let me say this. It is very difficult to have a child that may not be the most popular kid due to the fact that he is a bit out of control. He is super smart, very handsome and a great dresser {he dresses himself most of the time, crazy I know}, but most kids shy away from him because he is still learning the whole “keeping to your own bubble” concept. When you see a child that is a bit gregarious, please, PLEASE…pretty please, understand that often times the parents are not clueless and out of control. It just means that the kid is giving them a run for their money. And they are doing the best they can to guide those kids. I promise. Take my word for it.

Today I am thankful for the fire station. Because I realized while I was there that I have a lot of teaching to do with Jake. Also, as I hugged him while he cried after not being picked during duck, duck, goose, I remembered. For a second I was able to forget how frustrated I was about him throwing a fit, and how embarrassed I was that all the other moms were watching it all unfold, but I remembered what it was like to be in a class where you might not have tons of friends. Where people might think you are different. I had a year or two {or maybe more} of those. I think we all have been there at some point. It’s very hard to fit in and find your way. And while I sat there, outside of the fire station, hugging my boy, I thanked God for all those times throughout my life when I felt like an outsider, left out, mis understood….because for that one second, I was able to comfort my boy and understand his pain. For the first time ever, I realized that those times were not in vain, but that God allowed me to go through different moments like that so that I could be there for my kiddos when they experienced things like that.

I realize this may not be the most uplifting post, but I do want to say this…be thankful for your life. You never know when it might come in handy. And cherish those kiddos. Because they need you. To lead and guide them. And to point the way. To help them to understand.

And dear Lord, please guide me with this boy you have given me. This is really, really hard. REALLY HARD. I know you must have a reason for giving me him. He is pretty amazing. Help me to teach him to be a loving and kind friend. And a Christian. Because when it all boils down to it, I don’t care if he is a rocket scientist. I just want him to be loving, and kind, and caring of others. And ok, a little smarts wouldn’t hurt either. :) Thank you, Lord for giving me this beautiful boy. I love him.

“Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid.” John 14:27

“All things work together for good, for those who love God…” Romans 8:28

xoxo

Challenge: Think of a time in your life that perhaps was a difficult for you but now you look back and it has become a blessing. Thank God for it today. Nothing is ever in vain with Him. He knows that all we go through will eventually be used for good. xoxo

PS, thank you to my dear friend Heidi and my new good friends Tammy and Nicole for being so kind to my boy. Thank you for loving him despite the frustrating behavior. You guys rock!! love you.