Give People What They Need The Most

Hi Guys, two blog posts in two days. Wow. After I posted this post, I should get some sort of medal or something for being here. ha. Oh boy.

This one is going to be real quick as it’s almost time for church, but this morning something has been running through my mind and I needed to get it out really quickly….

Relating to people is really hard.

That might sound strange to you…but I’m pretty certain this is true, at least in my life. People hurt each other so easily, without even realizing it. This past week I have thought over and over about someone I hurt…and I had no idea I did. As I look back now, I realize how selfish I was and how stupid I treated that person, but at the time, I really was clueless.

Ignorance…I guess thats what makes relationships hard.

Anyway, a couple days ago I read this devotional and it really affected me. Grace. Whoa. That can be a really scary word. In such a judgmental world {both in the church and outside the church}, grace is often overlooked. Sure we preach it. Sure we talk about it. But it’s much harder to put into practice, isn’t it?

This week I needed to give several people in my life grace. And you know what? I can’t say I was super excited to do it. It’s much easier to be angry and frustrated than to swallow your feelings and extend a little grace, isn’t it?

But it’s crucial.

Here’s the thing guys. I want God to grant me grace. Because when I think back to all those people I unknowingly hurt in the past {or maybe knowingly at times}, my heart hurts. Really, really hurts. And it cries out to my Savior asking Him to cleanse me, forgive me…make me new.

So why can’t we allow those around us the same grace?

I’m praying today and the rest of my days that I can give the grace people need. Not be so quick to judge. Or to tear someone apart. Or to complain about someone. But extend grace instead.

God help me.

Someday…wait, RIGHT NOW…I need grace. So if I need it, I must give it.

“Give, and it will be given to you. A good measure, pressed down, shaken together and running over, will be poured into your lap. For with the measure you use, it will be measured to you.” Luke 6:38

Love you friends. Happy Sunday! xoxo

Slide Time

Brandon’s sister and brother in law, their kiddos and Brandon’s mom came up last night. Today we stopped by the pumpkin patch.

We had so much fun. The slide was a huge hit. Of course, we need to credit David for these great images.

I think I have a dare devil on my hands

And Grandma got in on the fun too….

And Bryony. She is intensely terrified of heights, but Lincoln HAD to have her join them on the slide…

And if that doesn’t share the emotion she was feeling, how about this one?

{Oh and we should mention that Lincoln left his shoes back in Stockton, so he borrowed Evy’s hot pink Nikes. Didn’t phase him. ha}

Oh and we can’t leave out our photographer’s self portrait…

I was watching from the sidelines and taking selfies…

Love him for putting up with me.

Grandma and her babies….

Left to right, Jacob, Scout, Evelyn, Lincoln, Levi and Grandma

So afterwards we hit up the local taqueria and then Bryony insisted on us having this…

We cut them all up and taste tested them. Like wedding cake tasting. It was so delicious. Ignore the look on my face, I know I look slightly scary.

And in case you were wondering what our late nights look like over here. Well….here you go. For your viewing enjoyment.

Over and out friends. Love you all.

 xoxo

My Family Comes First

My word. Has it been one whole month since I last blogged? Where in the world has time gone?!?!? I think it’s about time to get you guys filled in a little bit….

First, I want to speak something out loud that has been brewing in my mind for a while. Instagram is slowly replacing my blog. GAH…did I just say that? I DID!! While I hate to admit it, I guess it’s kinda true. Here’s the thing: life has gotten so busy lately…our little business is BOOMING. God is so good. I feel beyond blessed to see Him do His thing and finish what He started in our lives.

BUT…..All this busyness doesn’t make much time for blogging. 

So I post pictures via Instagram {ok, sometimes a lot of pictures, hehe} and give everyone a snippet of our lives without having to go too much into to detail…well, it helps, you know? But I miss this blog. So much of my life is chronicled here. I know many of you have been reading from the beginning and will remember many of my struggles as a new mom to two, watched me discover a business, listened to my ups and downs, watched God move us, and now see us grow into a new season of growth. It’s pretty cool, if you ask me. I love the history here.

Guys, I’m going to be honest. God has been dealing with me. Big time. About my family. About my choices. About my future. About my TIME. Do you ever think about time? I’m not sure I really did much, many moons ago. But now, it seems there is so little of it. Do you know what I mean?

Our 2013-2014 school photos. Evelyn grade Pre-K, Jacob grade 1.

So very little time.

Several weeks ago I read this devotional from Proverbs 31 woman. It convicted me to the core. This line in the devotional literally jumped off the page and slapped me in the face: “However, she reserved her greatest energy and most creative ideas for her first line of ministry—her own family and home.”

Whoa.

Guys, I want to be the Proverbs 31 woman. I really do. I want to have a neat and clean house, run a business, make extra money, minister to everyone who needs it. But I want my family and home to be first. First before ANYTHING and EVERYTHING that might come my way. First before ministry, or work, or even friends. I want my kids to know that after God, they are first in my life. God, family, church/work. That’s how my life balance should go.

But you know what? That doesn’t always happen, does it?

How many times have I pushed my kids away and said, “I need to finish this email, give me a few minutes” or “I’m sorry you’re tired and need me, honey, but we have to help someone really quickly.” Yikes. I’ve said both of those things and more way too many times to count. If you are a working mom, or in ministry of some form, I’m sure you have said those things too.

Ok, let’s be real here, it’s going to happen. It’s life. We can’t help it. But as I read that devotional it was like God was shinning a light right on my heart. And my heart shriveled up in embarrassment because it knew it wasn’t putting my family first. As I read those words, tears poured down my cheeks {like they are now}. I went and found Brandon and cried. I told him how sorry I was. And I told him my family will come first. Before work. Before church. But not before God. I will do what HE wants me to do, not what everyone else needs from me. I will make decisions for my children not based on my work needs, or what others around me think I should do, but on what God impresses me to do. I will take any obstacle that comes my way and knock it over, if that’s what God wants me to do. I will say “no” more, and say “yes” to my kids. I will put their needs first, even if it means telling others I can’t.

I will be a Proverbs 31 woman. Because she put her family first. Didn’t care what people thought. And work never ruled her.

I guess that’s why you haven’t seen much of me lately. I have only so much time in my day….I’ve spent every spare moment while the kids are at school working….so I can be with them when they come home. Brandon and I have made some drastic changes in our life….making some decisions that we feel are necessary to put our kids first. We are taking our arms and wrapping them as tight around our kids as we can. Because life is so short. And they are growing so fast. We will have lots of time when they are gone to live out our dreams and desires, but for now…we are putting those things second to making sure our kids live a healthy life and see Christianity through US pouring out on THEM…not US pouring out on EVERYTHING ELSE in our lives.

So I’ve taken account of my life and cut things out that I know do not meet with our ultimate goal of family first. I’m not sure how much you will really see of me…I will share our journeys as a family and as Evy’s Tree grows as much as I can here on this blog, but if you want a day to day glance at our life, follow me on Instagram. ;)

 I leave you with this verse: “…let each of us give account of ourselves to God…”  Romans 14:12

So I’m going to preach here for a second, so kindly cover your eyes if this isn’t your thing: but I encourage you to take some time and examine your life today. Don’t be afraid to say no every now and then. I know it will challenge you. Make sure what you are doing lines up with HIS will for your life. Not anybody else’s will, but HIS WILL. Put Him first in your life. Above everything. And watch what He does for you. Watch what He does for your family. Watch what He does for you life. I bet it will be amazing.

I love you all. You are so awesome. Carry on friends, carry on. In Jesus’ name.

xoxo